Mommy Update

Hello,

These past six months have been the most interesting and challenging fun I’ve ever had! Being a mother brings feelings of love, worry, fatigue, and excitement. I’ve learned a few lessons along the way:

1. Surround Yourself with Positive People.

The people we surround ourselves with, truly impacts our internal energy. I choose to surround myself with people who encourage, lift me up, and offer me good advice. As a new mom(and really as a person) I don’t need negative energy around me.

2. Give Yourself Grace

I’ve gotten better at extending grace to other people but you know what I haven’t really done? Extended it to myself. There’s no step by step guide to motherhood. Yes, there’s knowledge and doctors that help you along the way but there’s no instruction manual. I’ve had to extend grace to myself so many times.

3. Remember You are a Person Outside of Being a Mom.

You still need to developed a person outside of being a mother. I’ve challenged myself to new skills and improve skills to better myself as a person. Why? Because being a mother is part of who I am. It’s a huge part but still a part of me. It important to still evolve as a person.

Here’s a photo of me and our baby boy.

Just Go With the Flow

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I’m looking forward to this three day weekend. We made all of these plans and then we scrapped them. Why? Because we didn’t want to have a planned weekend. We really just wanted to rest and go with the flow. I really believe that amazing things can happen to us when we let go. When we realize we don’t always have to have control, we open ourselves up to new possibilities, relationships, and experiences. So, I have no idea what we’re doing this weekend but I’m looking forward to it!

Pants: http://www.motherhood.com

Top: www.queenstylesboutique.com

To all of the brave men and women who lost their lives fighting for the United States, I thank you for your sacrifice. I’m praying that God’s peace and love surrounds your family.

How to: Wear Overalls

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I’ve been busy with Queen Styles Boutique and getting everything ready for when our baby boy arrives. I needed a break! A time to just refocus and recharge my batteries. So we went to a baseball game and tried out a new restaurant. That seems to always do the trick. I’ve always loved overalls because they bring me back to my childhood. I probably had a pair in just about everything color! So this seemed like the perfect time to wear them. I really do believe that what we wear can alter our moods. Our clothing can boost our moods and make us feel different when we need it.

I decided to be really casual and paired my overalls with a stripped shirt and comfy shoes. You can wear overalls with tank tops or a basic tee. You can pair them with sneakers, sandals or a cute pair of wedges.

Overalls: Motherhood

Top: Marshalls

Babymoon: Charleston, South Carolina

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We had our babymoon! It gave us an opportunity to vacation before our baby boy gets here. For our babymoon, we went to Charleston, SC. We always have a good time in Charleston; it has a lot of charm. We didn’t really plan the activities for this trip like we normally do. I have to admit, I’m a planner so it was hard to just go with the flow but it was great seeing where our vacation took us. We ended up eating at restaurants we would’ve never gone to and exploring the beach like we never would’ve if we had planned every detail. Isn’t it funny how we try to have so much control over certain things in life when giving up control is really what’s best? There’s nothing wrong with being a planner. When God made me, He knew exactly what He was doing. Planning allows me to be efficient, productive, and effect. It’s a great quality to have; however, sometimes when we give up control we’ll open the door for new experiences to happen to us. Here are a few photos from our babymoon:

My bathing suit is from Target. It was so comfortable!

This off the shoulder dress is from http://www.queenstylesboutique.com. I love how this color pops.

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June is Scoliosis Awareness Month

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  I was diagnosed with scoliosis in middles school. It was an ordinary day in Physical Education when they did the test. They made you bend down and traced your spine to see if there was an abnormal curvature. When they flagged my test, I honestly didn’t pay it any attention. It was when I went to see a chiropractor that it seemed pretty serious. My curve quickly escalated and he explained that surgery would be needed. Scoliosis can have an impact on some of your organs; specifically, your lungs.  The surgery consisted of placing titanium rods around the upper component of my spine to try to straighten out the curve. After my surgery, they gave me a long list of things I couldn’t do. It felt very pessimistic to be honest. Here I was, in a hospital bed recovering from a condition I had never heard about and they wanted to lecture me on what I couldn’t do for the rest of my life….needless to say I felt confused and sad at the time. 

  It’s been about twelve years since my surgery. Do I still have pain? Absolutely. Are there times I want to explain my pain to people but won’t because I know they won’t understand? Yes! So I decided to write a list of things you should feel free to do if you have scoliosis. Guilt free. Here it is: 

1. Being that I was in high school when I had my surgery, there was no way I could carry all of my books. I remember my mom calling the administrative team and telling them I needed to have a set of books on campus in each of my classes and a set at home. That way I wouldn’t have to carry books around and deal with the pain. Feel free to let people know what you  do. There’s a good chance they won’t get it. They may think you’re faking it but it worth it to not feel the pain at the end of the day while they are sleeping peacefully. 

2. I used to be athletic. I loved playing sports and used to dance as well. Scoliosis changed that for me. I still like to be active but I had to get creative. So feel free to think outside of the box to get exercise. Yoga has definitely helped me. I even run now (at my own pace).  Some people will try to force you to work out beyond your limits but you know what’s best. Trust what your body is telling you. 

3. I loved wearing heels but the truth is, the higher the heel, the more pain I have. I’m 5’8″.  There were times I felt like I was too tall. I knew I was always going to stand on the back row on picture day. I was tall and lanky. I finally accepted that in high school and then scoliosis happened. I wanted to wear heels and be tall and proud but the pain from heels made that pretty hard. So I had to wear flats, supportive sneakers or kitten heels. The truth is, you should feel free to know what’s best for you. I wear heels now(nothing higher than four inches) but I know that stilettos are out of the question for me. Trust what your body is telling you. 

4. There are times when people expect me to carry heavy items. I’ve always been independent so admitting that I can’t carry something is hard for me but I’ve learned you should know there is strength in asking for help. There’s nothing wrong with asking someone to help you. 

5. You should LOVE your scar. It took me a while. I didn’t want to wear tank tops or bathing suits because I knew someone would see my ugly scar. The truth is, scars are beautiful. They show what you’re made of so don’t be ashamed of yours. Wear it proudly. 

Faux Leather Shorts

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I love to wear these shorts year round. So while there are still cool winds that accompany the warm temperature, I figure I would wear these shorts in one of my favorite ways: layering with tights. I decided to make this outfit more complex by adding a denim button up shirt with a sweater. This hat just ties the whole look together.

Hat: H&M

Denim Button-Up: Banana Republic

Faux Leather Shorts: H&M

Shoes: Christian Siriano for Payless

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Holiday Lookbook

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I love the holidays. I always have and always will. It’s great to be with family and friends while we celebrate the true reason for the season: the birth of our Savior. The holiday season has a special way of  bringing us together with our loved ones. As exciting as that can be, it can also be frustrating. Different events call for different outfits which can sometimes present challenges in the wardrobe department. I’ve been collecting requests from social media of some looks that you all wanted to see. This was a lot of fun to put together and I look forward to doing many more lookbooks in the future.

Office Holiday Party

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For the office party, it depends on the type of environment you work in. This look is for the girl who wants to let her creative flare be seen but maintain her professional stance. To tone down this look, you can always switch out the vest for a black structured blazer.

Dress: makemechic.com

Shoes: zara

Vest: Target

 

Date Night/Girls Night Out

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Whether you are heading out with the girls or your boo date night can be fun to dress up for. I like opting for a suit rather than a dress to mix up my night look. It’s a little daring (even for me) but I think you need to step outside of your comfort zone every now and then. There’s nothing wrong with showing off your curves or scars that you may have. After all, they’re what make you unique.

Suit: New York and Company

Halter Top: Victoria Secret

Shoes: Target

 

Brunch/Shopping Outing 

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I love the idea of wearing sequins during the day! One of my favorite ways to dress down a pair of sequinned leggings is to pair them with a sweatshirt. I like these leggings because they allow me to give my jeans a rest. If you have to run out to finish off your Christmas shopping list or go to a brunch with your girls, this is the perfect look.

Sweatshirt: Freedomhouse.cc

Collard Shirt: Forever21

Leggings: Express.com

Hat: Forever21

Boots: Old Navy

Christmas Day/Ugly Christmas Sweater Party

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I can get pretty festive so I love the idea of letting my Christmas spirit show!  I opted for jeans because there’s a good chance I’ll be rolling on the floor with my sister’s dog. If you’re Christmas dinners happen to be more formal, don’t be scared to add a high-waisted skirt with your Christmas sweater.I have no shame in throwing on a Christmas sweater for Christmas dinner or an ugly Christmas sweater party. The holidays are all about having fun. Feel free to dress as festive as you feel!

Sweater: Forever21

Jeans: Express

Boots: ShoeDazzle.com

Beanie: ShoeDazzle.com

 

New Year’s Eve

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A sequined dress is perfect for New Year’s Eve. I don’t think it’s cliche’ at all. In fact, I think it’s the perfect way to welcome the new year. These over-the-knee boots serve a dual purpose by making a statement and keeping your legs warm. I love the contrast of gold and silver. Don’t be afraid to have fun with contrast in your wardrobe. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Think about simple colors such as white and black, or red and pink. Have fun with it and don’t forget to add your own personal touch!

 

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Black and Brown

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I hope you all had a great time celebrating the Fourth of July. Thank you to all who have served our country! I was on vacation in Hilton Head Islad, South Carolina (if you follow me on Snapchat you already know that).  Vacation is exactly what the doctor ordered.

 On the last night we were there, I wore black and brown. It’s always bothered me when people say black and brown don’t match. They do! They’re both neutral colors so they can go with any color and each other. 

This was a pretty big moment for me. You all know that I had to have emergency surgery last fall and because of it, I have a long scar from the top of my rib cage that goes under my belly button. I have a scar on my back as well but I was really nervous about showing this one! I finally decided that I didn’t care. Scars are kind of like battle wounds if you think about it. I survived something pretty incredible and there’s no shame in being a survivor. 

Here’s what’s wore:

Dress: Express

Shoes: ShoeDazzle

Clutch: Forever21

Chocker: Forever21


Q&A This Week! 

Hi guys, 

I’m doing a Q&A post this Thursday. You can comment with your question on any post on here or Instagram. You can also message me on Snapchat or Twitter with any of your questions too.   

 
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