Did you get a chance to see the solar eclipse yesterday? If you were here in the states, it was a spectacular event. If you didn’t, NASA has some great photos on their website. I’m not sure about you, but when I was watching the eclipse, I felt a lot of worry leave my mind. It was so easy to just focus on what was happening in that moment and realize that I was apart of something greater. The solar eclipse put things into perspective for me. We face a lot of distractions on a daily basis(our jobs, family, finances, politics, and etc) it’s easy to forget that we are apart of a bigger picture. I believe that every single organism serves a purpose, that includes you and me. I’m not sure what you’re facing but always remember that you are here for a reason and serve a greater purpose.
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Being a business owner is a wild and tiring ride. There are days my fears try to get the best of me. When I wonder if I have what it takes, what people think of Queens Styles Boutique and if I’m making the right decisions. When fear sets in, I have to become self-aware. Why am I feeling like this? What triggered this feeling? Is this feeling based on facts? I’ve learned that there’s nothing wrong with the emotion of fear(I’m human after all) but what am I going to do with that emotion? Am I going to let it hold me captive or press my way through it? You know the answer! So the jumpsuit below can be purchased on my website: Queen Styles Boutique.
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If I’m being honest with you, around this time on Sunday I usually get discouraged. After all, Monday is right around the corner and that means it’s time for “dread” to kick it right? Wrong! What if, instead of dreading the beginning of the work week we practiced gratitude instead? Maybe you don’t have your dream job right now, but at least you have a job. Maybe your commute to work is really long, but isn’t that drive the perfect time to admire Gods works or listen to that podcast you’ve been meaning to catch up on? I’m not downplaying whatever your work situation is right now. I’m simply saying that while you and I are wherever God has us, we should look for the positive details of our situation. After all, being negative can be so draining!
So here’s to an awesome Monday to us!
Dress: Old Navy
Kimono: Wet Seal
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I just got back from attending a Bachelorette party in Miami and had an awesome time. I had forgotten how much I miss living in an environment that is so rich with culture. In Miami, the culture is in the food, music, and the way people dress, and talk. I started to realize how inspired I felt and wondered when was the last time I felt that inspired. I really missed having that inspiration. Before I started to go down that negative path of thinking, I started to think about the resources I have now that could inspire me. There are so many times we are waiting for a place or someone to inspire us but we have to realize that instead of waiting, we have the power to inspire ourselves. Don’t get me wrong, I think drawing inspiration from people and places is very important but there are so many other things we can be inspired by. It could be the sunset, sunrise, your loved ones or yourself. Together, lets make a habit of taking control over what inspires us. Feel free to tell me something’s that inspire you in the comments.
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I hope you all are doing well. This past weekend I went to a wedding that my husband was in. It’s a great thing when you witness family and friends gathering to celebrate something positive. I had to wonder, how many people (including myself) make it a habit to celebrate the “smaller” events with loved ones? Don’t get me wrong. Of course a wedding is an occasion that should be celebrated but have you celebrated the “smaller” events recently? If you just rocked a test after studying really hard, celebrate. Maybe you’ve been trying to make a habit of remaining positive in the midst of adversity, celebrate that. When you do celebrate, make sure your family and friends are there to bask in your victory. Here’s to all of us celebrating the “small” stuff.
Shoes: Charlotte Russe
P.S. you will definitely see this kimono again.
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I was speaking with someone the other day about taking chances. I was asked why I hadn’t stepped out and taken a chance in a particular area and my response shocked me. I thought about it and responded “I guess I’m afraid that the answer will be no, but I know the answer will always be no if I don’t ask.” I got silent and thought about what I had just said. How many opportunities have I eliminated based off of fear? Before I got too negative about my choices (or lack there of) I decided to look at this from a positive viewpoint: How many opportunities am I going to open myself up to based off of being brave and courageous? To me that sounds a lot better. I can focus on the amount of opportunities I might’ve missed out on, or I can focus on all the possibilities that being brave will open up.
My hope for you (and myself) is to simply start asking. Maybe you’ve been working really hard at work and think it’s time for a raise, well, ask for one. Maybe you need help in a certain situation but have been afraid to ask, well, ask! I can’t wait to see what we can accomplish; the sky is the limit.
This white dress is one that I’ll be wearing multiple times this summer. I like that it’s simple, understated and bold. It just works. Don’t get me wrong, I love prints and bright colors but every now and then it’s good to be simple and understated. I’ll admit, I used to think I always needed to be loud. Loud in a fashion sense and personality wise. I was always compared to other family members who were a bit more outspoken. I tried to imitate who they were and it just didn’t feel like me.
I’m content with being the strong silent type. That’s who I was created to be. Maybe someone is trying to tell you how you should act, talk or even dress. Well, you were uniquely created. God created you with a unique purpose in mind. You have a destiny to fulfill and you can’t accomplish what you need to by being someone else. Peer pressure is a real thing. Even as an adult. Sure, you could try to fit in but why fit in when you were born to stand out?
Dress: Old Navy
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I was diagnosed with scoliosis in middles school. It was an ordinary day in Physical Education when they did the test. They made you bend down and traced your spine to see if there was an abnormal curvature. When they flagged my test, I honestly didn’t pay it any attention. It was when I went to see a chiropractor that it seemed pretty serious. My curve quickly escalated and he explained that surgery would be needed. Scoliosis can have an impact on some of your organs; specifically, your lungs. The surgery consisted of placing titanium rods around the upper component of my spine to try to straighten out the curve. After my surgery, they gave me a long list of things I couldn’t do. It felt very pessimistic to be honest. Here I was, in a hospital bed recovering from a condition I had never heard about and they wanted to lecture me on what I couldn’t do for the rest of my life….needless to say I felt confused and sad at the time.
It’s been about twelve years since my surgery. Do I still have pain? Absolutely. Are there times I want to explain my pain to people but won’t because I know they won’t understand? Yes! So I decided to write a list of things you should feel free to do if you have scoliosis. Guilt free. Here it is:
1. Being that I was in high school when I had my surgery, there was no way I could carry all of my books. I remember my mom calling the administrative team and telling them I needed to have a set of books on campus in each of my classes and a set at home. That way I wouldn’t have to carry books around and deal with the pain. Feel free to let people know what you do. There’s a good chance they won’t get it. They may think you’re faking it but it worth it to not feel the pain at the end of the day while they are sleeping peacefully.
2. I used to be athletic. I loved playing sports and used to dance as well. Scoliosis changed that for me. I still like to be active but I had to get creative. So feel free to think outside of the box to get exercise. Yoga has definitely helped me. I even run now (at my own pace). Some people will try to force you to work out beyond your limits but you know what’s best. Trust what your body is telling you.
3. I loved wearing heels but the truth is, the higher the heel, the more pain I have. I’m 5’8″. There were times I felt like I was too tall. I knew I was always going to stand on the back row on picture day. I was tall and lanky. I finally accepted that in high school and then scoliosis happened. I wanted to wear heels and be tall and proud but the pain from heels made that pretty hard. So I had to wear flats, supportive sneakers or kitten heels. The truth is, you should feel free to know what’s best for you. I wear heels now(nothing higher than four inches) but I know that stilettos are out of the question for me. Trust what your body is telling you.
4. There are times when people expect me to carry heavy items. I’ve always been independent so admitting that I can’t carry something is hard for me but I’ve learned you should know there is strength in asking for help. There’s nothing wrong with asking someone to help you.
5. You should LOVE your scar. It took me a while. I didn’t want to wear tank tops or bathing suits because I knew someone would see my ugly scar. The truth is, scars are beautiful. They show what you’re made of so don’t be ashamed of yours. Wear it proudly.